When you need a mentor never look for a savior. There is a tendency for people to look for someone who is going to solve all their problems and give them a sudden uplift that changes their lives. That is not how success works, it is not a sudden thing it is a gradual and paced phenomenon.
1. Mentor empowers you a Savior rescues
Any mentor who is good at what they do does not give you money and declares that you are successful. What they do is that they give you advice no matter good or bad for you to make decisions that will change your life. A mentor must not make decisions for you, once they start making decisions for you they are now something else. A savior rescues you from problems that is what they are good at doing. A mentor helps to get the skill of fishing.
2. A mentor listens to you a Savior tells you what to do
Because you need rescuing the savior’s job is to tell you what to do. The savior is there because you need to be rescued so they are in charge and have the greater power, you must listen to them in order to be saved. If you choose not to listen to them then you cannot be saved. On the other hand a mentor is there to listen to you so that they can give you different options. They will help you to make a decision but will not make the decision for you. They will be there to assist you with a different view or a similar view but with things to consider.
3. A mentor does not get too involved, a savior can be emotionally involved
A mentor is not there to become part of your life but to become a reference point to assist you to make the right decisions. All the decisions are yours, your mentor is there to just be the point of analysis. However sometimes your mentor can become your savior and be involved when the relationship is beyond just being a mentor, and they are now your close friend, at that level the lines are blurred.
4. Mentors push you Savior pull you
A mentor may not be your savior but they will be your greatest accountability push. They will do what they can in order to push you to succeed for yourself. The mentor’s joy is not in pulling you to success, but rather it is in pushing you to success. Sometimes people get involved in help groups and expect the leader to pull them to success, which in the end it is difficult for the leader because they would end up pulling a lot of weight.
5. Mentors do not demand to be worshiped
A mentor is not in the god status they are just like you and me expect that they might have more insight into what you need help with. They will not demand that your worship them or that you owe them your life. A savior can do that, a savior can demand your life because they rescued you when you were dying or at a loss so you will owe them. A good mentor does not create a situation where you must owe them for life, they simply ask that you do your part and they will do their part.
When you say you are looking for a mentor be careful what you are looking for. If you look for a savior when that person is a mentor your expectations might be disappointed.
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